: ess.ee.ex.

sex is not proof of being loved;
sex is not proof of loving someone;
sex is not proof of being attractive;
sex doesn't make anyone important;
sex doesn't cure problems;
sex is not a nurture; and sex is not insurance against abandonment,
even if you're terrific in bed

a topic of conversation today; sex. when is sex not a topic of conversation throughout the day? it's not uncommon for a woman to talk freely about her sex life or lack there of now a days. i believe strongly that sex is just sex; it's simple and it's natural. but individuals at times may use sex to fill a void in their lives. the underlying need for something isn't filled, therefore individuals may use sex to fill that need that is not being met. what i am trying to get at is sex should be just that, SEX, not a substitute for something else. if a woman needs a shoulder to cry on when she is sad, and has sex instead, the satisfaction she is getting from sex isn't going to satisfy her need for comfort; if a woman has sex with her husbands best friend because he is out of town and she is lonely, the satisfaction she is getting from sex isn't going to make her feel less lonely and decrease her feeling of abandonment. sex does not solve problems; if sex did solve problems than i'd say this whole entire world would be happy and less problematic. i am hearing more and more people using sex to mask a need that isn't being met, which should be addressed directly and in the proper way. sex, should be just sex; it should be fun, pleasurable and satisfying; and when using sex to fill the void of some other need, i don't see how that can be satisfying because that direct need isn't being met. sex is simple; it's just sex.